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Messaging
Sending a Chat Request
Chat requests are the first step to connecting with someone on Looking4U. Learn how to send a thoughtful request that gets accepted.
How Chat Requests Work
When you find a post that interests you, you can send a chat request to the poster. This is a single message introduction that gives the other person context about who you are and why you're reaching out.
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Browse posts on the Discover page2
Click "Send Request" on a post that matches your experience3
Write a personalized message introducing yourself4
Send your request and wait for their responseDaily Chat Limits
To maintain a quality experience, there are daily limits on chat requests:
Free Users
3 requests/day
Premium Users
10 requests/day
Tips for Great Messages
- Mention specific details from their post to show you read it
- Explain why you think you might be the person they're looking for
- Be respectful and genuine in your introduction
- Keep your message concise but informative
What Happens Next?
After sending a request, the recipient can view your profile and message. They can accept (starting a conversation), decline, or not respond. You'll be notified when they respond.